It is hurtful when you lose a family member who stood with you and loved you beyond your expectations. My husband lost his grandmother last night. All these eight years, I never felt she is my husband's grandmother; I always felt as if 'she is my grandmother.' I have promised myself not to cry as my grandmother always taught me in all these eight years - to be strong and not to postpone life for anything!
The second day of my marriage was a surprise as she gave me the gift of life - liberty to live the way I wanted to live. Strange but I was the most pampered daughter-in-law in her life indeed she always treated me like her own daughter. She used to apply hair in my oil and tell me few lovely lines - 'you have lovely hair but you should eat some butter. It is not good to be so thin. Aaj kal ki ladhikya figure figure kya figure......you should be strong to handle life.'...(:
Omg! my mother never loved me so much. She used to enter my room every morning, and feed me prasadam like a kid. Instruct me to eat whole of it, made out of semolina, and unsalted butter. She knew I cannot write or read Hindi so she gifted me a book of her Guru, written in English.
A lady who never went to school could educate me so much about life and Hindu mythology.
She stood with me in all my decisions in my real and virtual life. Her few lines that will last with me -
'God did not chose you to be a mother as he wanted you to be a mother of many children. HE gifted you this life to have fun as in Hindu Mythology, if you have not taken any obligations in your past life, you are not bound to repay in this life by being a mother or a parent. HE wants you to help others in repaying their obligations. HE wants you to help other parents for their children. Do not postpone your work or stop life for anything. Let it flow like a moving river that meets the sea at the end of its journey. You have to be strong to live life, and to live it your way, Archana!'
I can do nothing other than dedicating this post to the most humble and beautiful woman I knew in this lifetime - my grandmother. I will always love you and miss you. I had so much to share with her but.................................???
Just a line from the movie 'The Lunch Box' that makes me move on - 'We tend to forget things, if we have no one to share'. I could remember many things as I could share them with her!
The basket of love in my life seems to be shrinking......R.I.P Dadi...
